“I’ve read so many books on communication and how to draw loving boundaries, but anything I have tried has made my spouse mad and my marriage worse. I’m trying so hard to be a good Christian wife, but I don’t know what to do.” I remember making this statement many years ago. My heart also breaks as I have heard…
I’ve tried so hard in my friendship with Amy. Whenever she’s needed anything, I’ve been there, which seems to be almost all the time. I’m exhausted. I don’t know what to do as her friend, to take care of myself, and to be a good Christian?” I said to my Bible study teacher one day after class. “How much does…
Unfortunately, many “Christians” grew up in homes or with society’s message excusing lust and pornography as a normal thing, educational, just a phase, or a needed release. In Satan’s plan, the corruption about love separates us from our flesh and blood spouse in front of us. The fantasies keep us from taking responsibility and fixing the individual issues that hooked us into lust fantasies from the start.
Because we aren’t born knowing our purpose designed by God, we form our understanding and beliefs about our purpose from our messages, experiences, and the world’s influence. Living in these imperfect beliefs creates confusion and self-doubt about our purpose. Our need to know our purpose also sends us on a search to determine or create our own purpose. We will continue to search until we find our true purpose from our Creator, God.
Abuse/Domestic Violence, Faith Struggles and Strengthening, Fear, Love and Marriage Christian, Relationships, Struggles, Uncategorized
What Does it Mean to Love like Jesus in Your Marriage?
July 15, 2021
My husband says he loves me, yet, his words and actions don’t feel like love. I’m trying to love him like Jesus, but what does that really mean as a wife and a husband? Realization Creates Opportunity When I think of how many times I asked myself this question in my previous unhealthy marriage, I’m reminded of how confused I…
God, your words says that you love me, but why can’t I feel your love? I know Jesus died for me because he loves me, yet why do I struggle to feel his love? Why do some of the words and actions of Christians come out as hurtful and unloving? If Jesus lives in me through Salvation, how can I…
A dictator is a ruler with total power obtained by force, like Hitler. Unfortunately, dictators are narcissistic and all about themselves regardless of what it costs or does to others. Dictators use all types and combinations of abuse to get what they want. Fear is one of their favorite forms of control, which follows the tactics of abusive people.
Comparison overshadows the beauty of our uniqueness and gifts. “God knitted each one of us in our mother’s womb.” (Psa. 139:13-16) He chose our physical attributes, personalities, and talents. “Each of us has our own gifts from God.” (1 Cor. 7:7) He chose everything about us for His reason and purpose in His grand plan.
Whether we realize it or not, we choose our attitude from our feelings and beliefs about who we believe we are. Where we get our identity determines the value we place on ourselves and others. There are two value extremes people can be pulled into without realizing it.