To feel loved is one of a person’s greatest desires and core needs. For centuries people have tried to find true and perfect love or a soulmate. However, because people are all imperfect, except for Jesus, how can we genuinely find and share perfect love? Do you know your definition and understanding of love and how it looks next to…
“If you are truly a godly wife, you would stop questioning me. You would always be kind, agreeable, and submit to me without question. Good Christian wives are supposed to be quiet and obedient.” Many Christian wives have heard these confusing statements. Wives want to be godly. But is it really God’s will for them not to be able to…
“I love my husband, but he struggles with his temper because of all of the hurt in his past. If I love him enough and forgive him for constantly hurting me, I can show him how much Jesus loves him. One day, he will become the loving, godly husband God designed him to be.” “I love my husband, but his…
“Honey, you know that I love you, and I would not intentionally hurt you. I was just kidding.” Have you ever heard this statement from your husband and found yourself wondering what love really means to him? Who Asks Their Spouse About Love? When couples get caught up in the emotions of love as they know it, they can be…
“I’ve read so many books on communication and how to draw loving boundaries, but anything I have tried has made my spouse mad and my marriage worse. I’m trying so hard to be a good Christian wife, but I don’t know what to do.” I remember making this statement many years ago. My heart also breaks as I have heard…
Abuse/Domestic Violence, Faith Struggles and Strengthening, Fear, Love and Marriage Christian, Relationships, Struggles, Uncategorized
What Does it Mean to Love like Jesus in Your Marriage?
July 15, 2021
My husband says he loves me, yet, his words and actions don’t feel like love. I’m trying to love him like Jesus, but what does that really mean as a wife and a husband? Realization Creates Opportunity When I think of how many times I asked myself this question in my previous unhealthy marriage, I’m reminded of how confused I…
God, your words says that you love me, but why can’t I feel your love? I know Jesus died for me because he loves me, yet why do I struggle to feel his love? Why do some of the words and actions of Christians come out as hurtful and unloving? If Jesus lives in me through Salvation, how can I…
We may also fall into operating from a Messiah fantasy because of the wounds we have endured. If you fear being alone or abandoned, you will often rationalize abuse to avoid feeling this pain. You may also live in a Messiah fantasy if you have learned that love is something you must earn by helping, serving, sacrificing, and gaining people’s approval.
A love denial fantasy is created to avoid facing truths that may bring feelings of abandonment, rejection, or ending the relationship in divorce. A love denial fantasy can be stronger if the victim believes God will be disappointed or mad at them if they don’t submit to their abusive spouse or get divorced. These spiritual lies come from misquoted and misused verses, often by the abuser, to keep the victim in their control through fear.