Tag: confusion and frustration

Abuse/Domestic Violence, Love, Love and Marriage Christian

#1 SECRET OF CHRIST’S LOVE DESIGN THAT CAN TRANSFORM YOUR MARRIAGE

We are one-half of our marriage. If we only commit halfway to our marriage, how can we expect a deep, rich, healthy, happy marriage? Likewise, if we are using an imperfect love design with unhealthy aspects, how can we expect our marriage to be healthy?

The only person you can change is yourself with the help of Christ. Our marriage is like a series of dance steps. When one partner changes a step, the other one will notice even if they don’t say anything at first. When you choose to love your spouse in Christ’s design, the new step is done in his love. Your spouse will choose to react or to respond.

Here’s the big secret you have been waiting to find, and it comes from two verses Jesus tells us.

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Abuse/Domestic Violence, Faith Struggles and Strengthening, Love

Biggest Misinterpretation of Christ’s Love

Even some Christians believe that we are to let others hurt us in with the profession of love, but they are misguided. They’re confused about the difference between persecution and abuse. Jesus was persecuted, which brought physical abuse. However, persecution is defined as being subject to hostility and ill-treatment because of religious beliefs. Jesus chose to allow his persecution and abuse unto death only when it was time for him to be crucified.

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Abuse/Domestic Violence, Faith Struggles and Strengthening, Love

Why Choosing to Love Like Jesus Changes How You Handle Life’s Challenges

2020 has taught us that we can only control our mindset, attitudes, beliefs, words, and personal actions. We have also realized that some natural destructive realities of living in a broken world can affect every aspect of our lives. However, as disciples of Christ, we must know and learn how to let Jesus use the challenges we face to show us his love, teach us, and strengthen our faith.

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Abuse/Domestic Violence, Faith Struggles and Strengthening, Love

Christians can Overcome Domestic Abuse

To have an exceptionally happy marriage, you must partner with Jesus to replace your broken love design with Christ’s exceptional love design. Unless Christ’s love design is the origination, foundation, and compass for your individual love and marriage, you will continue to use hurtful words and unloving attitudes. You and your spouse will continually fight and be frustrated. You will be vulnerable to fall into the cycle of domestic abuse and to pass the devastating behaviors of abuse onto your children.

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Abuse/Domestic Violence, Faith Struggles and Strengthening, Love

How to Tell if You are Being Verbally Abused

Verbal abuse usually starts out subtly. Your abusive spouse starts insulting you and if you object, they try to justify their abuse as ‘a joke.’ This form of manipulation is used by bullies, mean girls, and abusers. When the abuser is questioned or held accountable, they turn the tables by telling the victim that they are being too touchy or sensitive. They are deflecting their responsibility and the truth.

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Abuse/Domestic Violence, Faith Struggles and Strengthening, Fear, Love, Relationships, Struggles

What is the Love Chapter?

Without knowing God’s true meaning, I interpreted this chapter through the imperfect lens of my broken love experiences. My misguided understanding of love twisted my mindset. I saw love as me giving my all, while my spouse enjoyed it. I didn’t have equal expectations for the way he treated me. In this mindset, I saw the success or failure of my marriage as my sole responsibility. My one-sided and love-starved mindset and misunderstanding of God’s design for love and marriage made me vulnerable to become a victim of domestic abuse.

The primary trap for me was the illusion that my husband loved me, especially since I felt love-starved. The reason I stayed and kept trying to make my marriage work was my commitment to God in my marriage vows. I knew I had to give God and my husband my all. With my twisted understanding of love, I continued to be abused for thirteen years.

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Faith Struggles and Strengthening, Fear, Oppressing Thoughts or Mind Matters, Perfectionism, Struggles, Uncertainty in Transitions of Life

What to do With Your Question . . Why?

You know the favorite question of a three-year-old—why? Why do clouds float? Why can’t birds talk? Why do bugs have so many legs? Why am I so small? The endless curiosity of little children and their questions provide them with information to try and make sense of the big world they are experiencing. Their innocence and inquisitiveness create a magical…

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